If you find yourself hanging out all-too-often in cyberspace and dreading the next interview-style coffee date, you might be suffering from ODF.
While I don't suggest you should abandon online dating completely, consider taking a break from the process and return refreshed, along with some realistic expectations and digital tools that might increase your chances of success. You're tired of logging on and coming up empty-handed. You're tired of trying to create interesting introduction emails.
I remind myself that 1 day I don't want to be a burden on my daughter of not having my own life. How do you feel it harmed you to have that much focus on you? She has two great parents and has become a lovely young adult, and that is the one criticism I've heard her level at them. I live with no regrets and I fear that if I consume myself in finding "Mr.
Plus, I'd love to show her a nice nuclear family 1 day... Right" (if there is one) :) that I will look back and regret not spending that extra time with my son... He's 5 now and wants all my time, not sure that when he's a teenager he'll feel the same way. I feel it makes more sense to use what little personal time I have away from my daughter to focus on ME, not a man.
He diligently copies the same email daily and sends it cold to women with a shotgun approach. Sure online dating is a numbers game, but if you aren't an educated player, your email may end up deleted by the time someone reads the third sentence.
I finally had to tell him, "Copy paste = erase." I suggested that he leave the novel at home. If anyone has ever suggested that you might be too picky, chances are, they're right.
All this technology may be keeping us in touch but it has also kept us from touching anything tender.
Contained observations and opinions should not be misconstrued as specific counseling advice.
I also compare the Internet dating process to a real estate transaction. You handpick 10 men or women to write to and take the time to personalize the subject line. You diligently send emails more often than not, and still wake up to an empty inbox. Yet you find it hard to write an introduction email that will be catchy and stand out. Take for example *Mike (name changed), who has been sending the same 770 word count email about himself for four years to women promising a lifetime of happiness.I fear I'll be my mother who divorced at 36 and never dated again!!Immersed her life in her kids (or used it as an excuse to NOT get over the fear of dating after being married 15 years). I'd rather stay at home with my kids and either go out or just sit home and relax!Description: An exception occurred while processing your request.Additionally, another exception occurred while executing the custom error page for the first exception.