Being a shy guy makes dating difficult, to say the least.
As a shy guy, you likely experience your share of problems with going out there and meeting other men, and you probably feel even greater stress when it comes time to actually ask those men out on a date.
He told me my friend was a bad listener, interrupted him a lot and he couldn’t a word in. Ask open-ended questions and when all else fails try, “tell me more about that.” It works like a charm.
You might not think guys notice the little things, but most do.
Recently, I’ve been getting a lot of private Facebook messages from baby lesbians who are freshly out of the closet and asking me all kinds of questions:“How do I date girls? I will never forget how terrified I was when I first realized I wanted to exclusively swim in the girl pond. I exerted zero effort into attracting boy creatures, but I learned quickly that I didn’t really need to.
It can feel wildly intimidating to be a little, vulnerable kitten tossed into a teeming cesspool of seasoned dykes.
A lot of the anxiety shy men feel when they go on dates revolves around feeling like they’re being judged and feeling like they just aren’t going to measure up under their date’s scrutiny.
To say I wish I was a big boy again would not be too far from the truth. Unfortunately for us, when we decide we prefer riding the queer train and hop off at station “Girl-On-Girl,” there is no tour guide to greet us and lead the way (which is particularly sad, seeing as lesbians make for excellent tour guides). It wasn’t so long ago that I was a wide-eyed young gay hungry for the answers to a slew of my pressing questions about lesbian dating. We are taught the rules of the boy-girl dating game at an early age.Queer men are varying shades of the rainbow." —Chris, 25 "I went from a 225-pound fat boy to a 145-pound athletic guy.As I lost more weight and gained muscle mass, I began to notice a change in my looks.